Another difference is that for a bachelor, Judaism is a nice hobby, not an all-inclusive lifestyle, to be spent at all hours. A bachur spends his time learning and studying and other "Jewish activities". If it means that Shabbos ends an hour and half after Sundown, so be it. It's not like he has a hot date or a boss who wants him to come into the office to work on a trial or big business deal.
Difference #3: Bachelors and Single Jewish guys are NOT supposed to be eunuchs. That means that we need some socializing time with members of the opposite sex. Because of this, it is UNREASONABLE to expect us to spend 4.5-6 hours EVERY SHABBOS with you older couples and younger couples with young children. It doesn't do us any good. Your priorities are different than ours. It's NOT OUR JOB to be the "community fall-back option" if a Jewish organization needs a "Rabbi" or Chazzan". There's more to that position than reciting the words or singing the notes without vowels.
Difference #4: Basically, other than being a donor and occasional participant in synagogue, we aren't meant for the Orthodox world. Our priorities are our jobs/careers, living quarters (houses, apartments), transportation (bus, car or trying to buy and maintain one) and socializing with guys and women.Additionally, the types of women and men that we find interesting WON'T BE FOUND in the synagogue and Orthodox Jewish Community. Accept it and move on.
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